Caught up inside my feelings........

[Banshee]

Bit of a soppy one really boys.

Sat in a dark room with some music on, a glass of fanta fruit twist and deep in my thoughts. Not often I stop and relax and take some time to think, rest and recharge every waking minute I feel guilty if I'm not busy doing something as you can tell by the waffle I write on here constantly.

Talk of Chris (Plank) tonight is just a reminder of how short and cruel life can be. I'd just like to say what a pleasure it is being on here with such a cracking bunch of lads and lasses, the amount of help we give each other on here and how above and beyond some people go to help out the fellow member puts some families to shame. I'd go as far as calling you all my family :thumb2

May our vehicles last forever and with it our friendships and the connections we have made and will make through this forum. I know I've made some great friendships through this site.

Now that's all out of my system, I'll wish you all a good evening and man the hell up

:kissy

 

[macabethiel]

Life is not a dress rehearsal we get one shot at it only !

I share your sentiments Banshee life is too short. I went to a funeral last Thursday to support my wife the deceased Norma was her parents next door neighbour for about 50 years.

Tonight I languished in our Hot Tub listening to a CD by Rufus Wainwright and suddenly remembered about 15 people who I used to work with some 8 of them on my first shift at the old St Marys Gate PS in Derby all have passed away over the years and all but two were younger than me.

Sure makes you think about the fragility of what we call life. On a more cheerful not I taxed the Merc today as it's going to be a hot few days - roof down and heater on weather probably. lol

 

[terranosaurusdoug]

Sniff...that was beutiful!!

I never knew plank, n I must have missed the posts you were on about. People say stuff like life is too short and all the other cliches, but cliche or not most of em are true, life IS too short, and we really don't know what is round the corner etc.!

Cheers man,i felt the love! oh and I think rustics truck will last forever lol

 

[solarman216]

Yes life changes, not so many years ago it was parties and weddings, now it is more hospitals/nursing homes (visiting) and funerals, you just have to carry on Rick

 

[Banshee]

I share your sentiments Banshee life is too short. I went to a funeral last Thursday to support my wife the deceased Norma was her parents next door neighbour for about 50 years.

Tonight I languished in our Hot Tub listening to a CD by Rufus Wainwright and suddenly remembered about 15 people who I used to work with some 8 of them on my first shift at the old St Marys Gate PS in Derby all have passed away over the years and all but two were younger than me.

Sure makes you think about the fragility of what we call life. On a more cheerful not I taxed the Merc today as it's going to be a hot few days - roof down and heater on weather probably. lol

Sending you hot vibes my man :thumb2 :camping:

You must be living good mate, keep up what you're doing and enjoy every minute of it bud, and for crying out loud get that pendulum straightened :lol

Sniff...that was beutiful!!

I never knew plank, n I must have missed the posts you were on about. People say stuff like life is too short and all the other cliches, but cliche or not most of em are true, life IS too short, and we really don't know what is round the corner etc.!

Cheers man,i felt the love! oh and I think rustics truck will last forever lol

:thumb2 Glad the feelings mutual

Hahaha Rustics truck is going to be in books for the next generations!!!!

 

[Banshee]

Yes life changes, not so many years ago it was parties and weddings, now it is more hospitals/nursing homes (visiting) and funerals, you just have to carry on Rick

Rick you inspire me mate, I feel like I never sit down and even so when I read what you've been up to I feel lazy!!!

We'd be lost on here without your knowledge and guidance sometimes :bow

 

[zippy656]

Well said.

We all miss people that are no longer here...

I was thinking of willow a few days ago. Hope she has found what she needed

 

[Thomas61]

Not been here too long but always feel the support and help from you guys when people ask.
I saw that support when I recently read about Rustygates Alaskan adventure and associated thread. I was genuinely touched by the members support.
Easy to see how good friendships are made here and long may it last.

Oh, and that Alaska adventure is well worth a read.

 

[jims-terrano]

Wow Banshee very deep indeed but agree with you mate, cracking place to be. As you know I do a lot of volunteering for a youth organisation and although I'm part of some incredible activities and know some great people I definitely do too much for others and need to take a step back and see what is important in life.

Think sometimes we all need a reminder occasionally :thumbs

 

[Banshee]

The Alaskan Adventure was fantastic!!!!

I used to think forums were archaic and desolate places from past experience and you were lucky to get an answer within a week, from being on here, you'll be very unlucky if you don't get some sort of response within minutes.

Long may it continue, I just hope we can all meet with each and as many other members as we can be it laning weekends or whatever :thumb2

Panelbeaterrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr when you bringing your beast out on some lanes again?

 

[terranosaurusdoug]

I can relate to what you said about feeling guilty when you're not busy, I used to feel like that and still do sometimes! Take more time for yourself bro, its very important :thumb2

 

[macabethiel]

Looking after yourself - try a small reward from u2u !

I can relate to what you said about feeling guilty when you're not busy, I used to feel like that and still do sometimes! Take more time for yourself bro, its very important :thumb2

My brother has had bouts of depression over the years and although he still takes a low dose of medication to keep the black dog at bay his real breakthrough came when he learnt something called "Cognitive Behaviour Therapy".

Its a simple concept made complicated by some practitioners but essentially it's about being good to yourself. My Dad used to say you have to look after yourself before you can look after others - sounds obvious when you say it.

 

[Lazy-Ferret]

I am more of an animal person, well mainly Ferrets really, than a human person, so it takes a lot for me to think of someone as a friend, rather than an acquaintance, but as you say, there are a lot of people on here that I consider are friends I have yet to meet. The few people I have met from here have not let me down, and are even nicer in the flesh...

Because as I said, I am an animal person, and we take in the waifs and strays, we get to see far too many of our friends come and go, which is a constant reminder of just how fragile life is, and how cruel people can be.

We had one of our little guys (Galaxy) pass away last week, well before his time should have been up, because of what some human had done to him in his early days. Despite his disabilities, he was a real character, always up to no good, and made a point to be my Nemesis his whole life. I was lucky enough to be working from home the day he died, and when I realised he had decided the time had come, I got a chance to sit back on the sofa, and have a nice cuddle of him, for the last hour of his life. There were a few moments I thought of how lazy I was being, just sitting around, cuddling a ferret, as it was probably the longest time I had ever sat in one place doing nothing, in a very long time.

I was thinking then just how quickly life can take a turn, here was this guy, who a few days ago was tormenting me and wrecking everything, now riddled with cancer, and dying in my arms. Somehow we need to learn that we should not look at taking a few mins to sit around and contemplate the meaning of life as being lazy, but as a time to actually take stock, and realise all the good things that have happened.

So it's a lot easier to say than do, but do try to make the most of those "Lazy" few mins, but maybe try enjoying it with someone alive, while you still can.

 

[Banshee]

I am more of an animal person, well mainly Ferrets really, than a human person, so it takes a lot for me to think of someone as a friend, rather than an acquaintance, but as you say, there are a lot of people on here that I consider are friends I have yet to meet. The few people I have met from here have not let me down, and are even nicer in the flesh...

Because as I said, I am an animal person, and we take in the waifs and strays, we get to see far too many of our friends come and go, which is a constant reminder of just how fragile life is, and how cruel people can be.

We had one of our little guys (Galaxy) pass away last week, well before his time should have been up, because of what some human had done to him in his early days. Despite his disabilities, he was a real character, always up to no good, and made a point to be my Nemesis his whole life. I was lucky enough to be working from home the day he died, and when I realised he had decided the time had come, I got a chance to sit back on the sofa, and have a nice cuddle of him, for the last hour of his life. There were a few moments I thought of how lazy I was being, just sitting around, cuddling a ferret, as it was probably the longest time I had ever sat in one place doing nothing, in a very long time.

I was thinking then just how quickly life can take a turn, here was this guy, who a few days ago was tormenting me and wrecking everything, now riddled with cancer, and dying in my arms. Somehow we need to learn that we should not look at taking a few mins to sit around and contemplate the meaning of life as being lazy, but as a time to actually take stock, and realise all the good things that have happened.

So it's a lot easier to say than do, but do try to make the most of those "Lazy" few mins, but maybe try enjoying it with someone alive, while you still can.

Beautiful

Food for thought there

 

[terranosaurusdoug]

Some real thoughtfull stuff! Time out is very important, waste a few hours on the playstation or whatever, I've found out that time doing nothing is time really well spent sometimes :thumb2 we need it like sleep

 

[solarman216]

This is a place I am at the moment, a friend/customer of 30 years plus and 6 years younger than me, he had a triple bypass some years ago then a stent but he always worked a full day, one of the finest people you could wish to meet, he can read people in an instant, put me right a few times with new meets, I tend to be too trusting but he indicated a few times not to trust this or that person, he was never wrong, recently he was diagnosed with lung cancer, had kemo and seemed to be doing well but late last year was told it was still growing, more kemo but not doing any good, still working till Feb but now not able, more recently now on Oxy and morphine, I call in and see him every day for at least half an hour, it is hard seeing a friend dying in front of you and nothing you can do, but my visits mean a lot and it shows, as it happens the emergency Oxy guy turned up while I was there, had I not been there it is no way his wife would have comprehended the equipment involved, initially even I did not till I asked the right questions, oxy bottles for outings, oxy machine for home use, (makes oxy from air, would like one of those) big oxy bottle in case machine fails and pipes gallor, so yes I will happily give up part of my day to visit it is very important to him and his family, Rick

 

[Blocky10]

And they'll appreciate every minute you're there with them Rick. Good friends are hard to come by and when you realize you've got one, you don't think twice about the time spent with them. They become extended family.
Sounds like an oxy machine would be a handy thing to have! My grandad spent the last days of his life at home (cancer). He had a new full electric bed with all bells and whistles and the last response I got from him was a chuckle when I asked if I could have his bed and turn it into a motorcycle bench for my garage.
I miss him terribly and am glad I spent so much time with him and still have the memories.

 

[Banshee]

This is a place I am at the moment, a friend/customer of 30 years plus and 6 years younger than me, he had a triple bypass some years ago then a stent but he always worked a full day, one of the finest people you could wish to meet, he can read people in an instant, put me right a few times with new meets, I tend to be too trusting but he indicated a few times not to trust this or that person, he was never wrong, recently he was diagnosed with lung cancer, had kemo and seemed to be doing well but late last year was told it was still growing, more kemo but not doing any good, still working till Feb but now not able, more recently now on Oxy and morphine, I call in and see him every day for at least half an hour, it is hard seeing a friend dying in front of you and nothing you can do, but my visits mean a lot and it shows, as it happens the emergency Oxy guy turned up while I was there, had I not been there it is no way his wife would have comprehended the equipment involved, initially even I did not till I asked the right questions, oxy bottles for outings, oxy machine for home use, (makes oxy from air, would like one of those) big oxy bottle in case machine fails and pipes gallor, so yes I will happily give up part of my day to visit it is very important to him and his family, Rick

You're a top bloke Rick!!!! :bow

 

[rustic]

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Cheers man,i felt the love! oh and I think rustics truck will last forever lol

Quite right, just wondering what will happen to it when I'm gone.:augie

As I get older, with my current condition, I have been accompanying my wife to church on quite a regular basis, even though I have not been confirmed I have been invited up for a blessing, and I have found great comfort in that. I feel very emotional, as my worries feel as though they are shared.
Added to that, the people at church are very helpful and extremely supportive.
When I am able, I go to the short morning service with my wife.
A few times now, I have felt a warming presence, as if a calling, I have discussed this with my wife and family, and I thought about getting confirmed.
I thought that approaching 61 that I would be too old, I discussed this with our local vicar, and she said, it's never too late, you're never too old. After a discussion at our home, the vicar is happy to put me forward for confirmation, and is happy with my understanding of the faith. If all goes well, my confirmation will take place next month by the Bishop at Lichfield Cathedral.
Even writing this, has brought a tear to my eyes.

Like Banshee says, take a bit of time out just for you, to think where you are going, it's all too easy to be swept along with the stresses of life.
It doesn't need a glass of alcohol to bring out your thoughts, it's really better without. Don't be afraid to discuss your thoughts with family and friends.
You guys are my friends, so I am discussing my thoughts with you.
Uncle Rustic (Richard).

 

[Banshee]

Quite right, just wondering what will happen to it when I'm gone.:augie

As I get older, with my current condition, I have been accompanying my wife to church on quite a regular basis, even though I have not been confirmed I have been invited up for a blessing, and I have found great comfort in that. I feel very emotional, as my worries feel as though they are shared.
Added to that, the people at church are very helpful and extremely supportive.
When I am able, I go to the short morning service with my wife.
A few times now, I have felt a warming presence, as if a calling, I have discussed this with my wife and family, and I thought about getting confirmed.
I thought that approaching 61 that I would be too old, I discussed this with our local vicar, and she said, it's never too late, you're never too old. After a discussion at our home, the vicar is happy to put me forward for confirmation, and is happy with my understanding of the faith. If all goes well, my confirmation will take place next month by the Bishop at Lichfield Cathedral.
Even writing this, has brought a tear to my eyes.

Like Banshee says, take a bit of time out just for you, to think where you are going, it's all too easy to be swept along with the stresses of life.
It doesn't need a glass of alcohol to bring out your thoughts, it's really better without. Don't be afraid to discuss your thoughts with family and friends.
You guys are my friends, so I am discussing my thoughts with you.
Uncle Rustic (Richard).

Rustic that's great :thumb2 I'm glad you've found some comfort in services with your wife and I presume the Bishop at Lichfield Cathedral doesn't just confirm anyone :nenau