Bit of advice?

[clivvy]

Thanks Felix. Hes a cock no doubt, and its his way of going about things that is upsetting. All he had to do, was say can you not park there for any length of time. id only left the car there an hour, and was going to move it. Part of the issue is they have "seen" me parking it there previously, but my confusion is, hw long did they stand and watch it parked there? because as far as I knew, I have the right of access to my property, and I may well have been loading/unloading stuff from the back, I thought that was ok and didnt require me to ask his permission, which is what he says I havent done.

I cant make up my mind what to do about the threat, and Im not even certain if his threat was to "move your car myself and pull it off the drive" which is something he said, or his threat is to beat me up because hes bigger than me. all i know is i was a bit shocked by his intensenes, his leaning up against my wall/door and threatening me. i felt physically threatened, he was heavy breathing, you know? wound up? and trying to stare me out. thats too much.

i tried to argue that I thought it was a shared drive, and NOT his land, his response was it wasnt shared, i only had right of access over his land. i am reviewing the deeds today. In my argument I apologised if I had misunderstood the deeds, but then told him, because he was going on about his mate, to go back to his solicitor then and clear things up.

he also mentioned the half tarmac thing, can really remember exactly what was said but it lead me to stop him and tell him that we werent being difficult about it, it was him that just went ahead and tarmacced it anyway and wouldnt wait for us. as far as we know, he shouldnt have done it, and now all the water runs off onto the side of our house causing damage, and floods the back garden. ive posted some pics below... Id like to know what we can do, if anything, about what he has done to the drive, so will hopefully get some free legal advise soon...
damage

the spot i was parked, the land he says is HIS

the top of the drive, note the half tarmac job, so tarmac is HIS, concrete is MINE?

 

[Martin60]

Thanks guys. Problem is, the guy threatening doesn't live next door, his mum does. He lives down the road. We don't get on anyway because if this shared drive, and basically from day one, all he has done is being intimidating to get his own way. The shared drive has been an issue for us since they came about, and he's only ever been a dick about it. .

Ca'nt honestly see where hes coming from.
If he does not live there whats his problem.
Have you approached his mother, what does she say.

As for the water/drainage problem since the drive being tarmaced, (badly laid and no edging :doh) then you do have rights, especially if his water run off is causing damage to your property.


I had same issue after block paving my drive. Luckily neighbour is understanding. between us we installed some drainage chanels and managed to divert some of run off to the road.

 

[clivvy]

well, at the moment its unclear who owns the house. I thought it was his mum, because when I looked into values of our house, i noted theres was sold to I Bower, Irene, the mother. His problem is, hes a dick, and he has soem sort of social power issue. hes bigger than me, and clearly a bully. all the years I have known him, hes used every intimidating tactic to get his own way.

I agree about the drive. They claim we have been awkward. which makes me angry because thats arrogant. we asked him to wait, we would save up, when he refused, we said then do not do anythign to it, but he did. it floods in heavy rain, draining over where the caravan in parked and into the lawn/pathway, its literally a huge puddle. it also collects at the front and runs back, this puddle is what is causing damage to our property. Now, all we are trying to do is defend ourselves by maintaining a status quo over the drive, but hes totally gone over our heads over everything.

I suppose if it came to it, hes no leg to stand on, he has no proof of what we said about the tarmac drive, but then no proof of what he said, yet the drive is still half tarmacced, so its his word against ours, and i think we will come off better.

Not tried talking to his mum, shes nice enough, pleasent old lady, but shell just tell us to talk to carl, and i dont want to, certianly not on the stret, or at his house, or at mine becaus ei feel physically threatend by him so does my girlfriend.

 

[felixthelogchopper]

Try talking to his mum about his negotiating style and explain that you are looking for a solution, not an escalation, but you feel in the face of his aggressive actions that you will have no option but to get the police involved if he continues in the same manner. Reinforce the message that you have never had a problem with her and all you want is to be able to enjoy your property as much as you hope she enjoys hers.Part of your solution is stopping the nuisance of water running off her property and causing the damage to your property which did not exist until the drive was tarmacced. Try to keep it all relaxed and calm, but explain you don't feel able to discuss things with him alone due to his behaviour. If she wishes him to represent her, explain that is ok if she is present as well as a witness to support you. You have to keep your fingers xed that she is more reasonable than him, which will be aided by you making your contact as unthreatening as possible. Hope it all goes well for you. :thumb2

 

[clivvy]

i'll see how it goes, my other half isnt sure about getting her involved, but im going to say something at soem point. already her visitor today has parked across HALF of the drive...HALF? how stupid are they? grow up!

me and my other half have said simply all we can do is watch the drive. if ANYONE parks there, tell them to move and record it. I have had soem advice on another site, and it seems 9as we expected) theres nothing we can do. basically hes been a c**t but has kept within the realms of legality. apparently yes he can tarmac half the drive as he has the right to maintain his half as well as mine, and vice versa. yet I am confused as the deeds state mutual agreement required.

we measured the tarmac, and hes taken MORE than he should have so hes tarmacced onto "out land", which we shall bring up at our next altercation and quite a substantial amount. apparently we cant do anything now, left it too late. from now on though we are going to record as much as we can, so when he comes round here being pissy, we have some reference i will also record any conversations for my own safety.

im fairly satisified theres not much he can do also...i can tell them not to park there, just as much as he can tell me, the only difference is im nicer than him. i certainly dont plan to be helpful any more, which is a real shame.

 

[JimmyJaffa]

Was going to say who measured the half Stevie wonder?:doh:doh, Get some lads to take this twat a ride he will never forget, the only thing he will understand.

 

[larson]

Was going to say who measured the half Stevie wonder?:doh:doh, Get some lads to take this twat a ride he will never forget, the only thing he will understand.

:clap:clap:clap

 

[clivvy]

well, with his threatening nature karma will do the rounds sure enough. We measured up the drive, hes gone well over with the tarmac, but we are not going to be pissy about it unless he comes back with more trouble.

 

[(RIP) PLANK]

well, with his threatening nature karma will do the rounds sure enough. We measured up the drive, hes gone well over with the tarmac, but we are not going to be pissy about it unless he comes back with more trouble.

it's nice to have somthing in reserve :naughty good idea Clivy!

and I would avoid deliberate confrontaion it's no way to go things just tend to get worse, unless of course your bruce-lee-mohamed (i'm hard) ali, and even then you'r probably just get arrested and he could use the whloe drive while you were inside

 

[clivvy]

it's nice to have somthing in reserve :naughty good idea Clivy!

and I would avoid deliberate confrontaion it's no way to go things just tend to get worse, unless of course your bruce-lee-mohamed (i'm hard) ali, and even then you'r probably just get arrested and he could use the whloe drive while you were inside

oh dont worry, not much chance of that im just a skinny wimp, i prefer to get along with people me, something I think he is a stranger to.

 

[patbhoy]

I notice that your caravan is parked in the drive, how come this can fit but not your truck

 

[clivvy]

the truck was parked next to the caravan, a bit furthur forward, thats the spot hes complaining about. as he hasnt ever complained about the caravan or cars parked in that spot behind the house, theres is jack all he can do now, left it too long. Its a funny setup. we have drive at the front (note black mazda), drive down the middle, shared, and a parking spot at the back in front of a garage (where the caravan is)

 

[BigBlack]

Do they have a garage at the rear too? If they do then your deeds will prob say 24 access to garage.... if not then its prob classed as a shared drive? Either way though neither of you have the right to block it.... be it at the entrance or parking on it. Thats said though their is such a thing as being reasonable!!!

 

[clivvy]

Do they have a garage at the rear too? If they do then your deeds will prob say 24 access to garage.... if not then its prob classed as a shared drive? Either way though neither of you have the right to block it.... be it at the entrance or parking on it. Thats said though their is such a thing as being reasonable!!!

no garage at the rear, just a parking space hes got a car parked there. Im in no way blocking him or his mum, never have never will, I only took the liberty because me and his mum have agreed over the years to let visitors park up, that seems to have changed now for some reason. I totally understand the deeds now, and the law surrounding them, but as you say, such a thing as being reaosnable. all he had to do was ask me to move. his problem is, he doesnt liek to ask anything. hes never ASKED us anything, he has only ever TOLD us what he WANTS, and we have been continually agreeable. fat load of good that has done us.