Asperations and Bucket List for 2018

[jims-terrano]

Now this may seem a little early but it’s not a HNY, we can do that next week. It’s also not a resolution list as those often get broken.

So what hope, asperations or bucket list do you have for next year.

Here’s mine.

Complete the teaching qualification
Spend time getting the youth groups Duke of Edinburgh awards organised including their expeditions.
Get the Project Truck on the road again.
Get the MGB project back on track.
Remember to take time out for me and my family and friends.
Go Camping.

 

[Banshee]

Now this may seem a little early but it’s not a HNY, we can do that next week. It’s also not a resolution list as those often get broken.

So what hope, asperations or bucket list do you have for next year.

Here’s mine.

Complete the teaching qualification
Spend time getting the youth groups Duke of Edinburgh awards organised including their expeditions.
Get the Project Truck on the road again.
Get the MGB project back on track.
Remember to take time out for me and my family and friends.
Go Camping.

No laning weekends?

Right, that's you blacklisted!!!!

 

[jims-terrano]

No laning weekends?

Right, that's you blacklisted!!!![/QUOTE

Not sure if the MG will cope with green lanes, yellow ones maybe :lol

 

[terranosaurusdoug]

No laning weekends?

Right, that's you blacklisted!!!!

:lol yeh Jim c'mon

 

[macabethiel]

2018 hopes

We just want to get back living in our house again the one we are renting has one medium sized lounge and a small kitchen with downstairs bathroom.

Our old house has a small kitchen with an adjacent kitchen extension room with breakfast bar and seating area. We have a large L shaped front room with a dinning area and seating areas. We also have a rear lounge with access to the conservatory via a patio door.

We are feeling the loss of space from 4 ground floor rooms to 1- especially for the Chihuahuas who had their own room - a conservatory with cat flap so they could go outside when they wanted. We would let them into the lounge when we were watching TV or whatever.

I guess we will feel better in the new year when the house roof is replaced - hopefully this might be started in late February or early March once the winning contractors starts work.

Father-in-Law starts his Palliative Chemotherapy for his prostate cancer in early January he has been having treatment for the last 3 years - hormone treatment & chemo tablets. I just hope he tolerates it ok as he is 85 and lives on his own. The wife is making daily visits and his son who lives next door likewise.

The Chihuahua puppies are doing well and 2 out of the 3 have started weaning. The smaller one is being stubborn at the moment but they are only 4 weeks and 5 days old so its early days.

Happy new year to everyone here.

 

[Banshee]

I suppose next year I would just like to progress as much as possible in my new job, take my CBT and then hopefully do my Direct Access with my mate later into the year and do as many laning weekends as possible with the guys :thumbs

 

[Lazy-Ferret]

Well our new year aspirations have taken a bit of a turn, my Father in law had an unexpected meeting with the grim reaper on Christmas eve. obviously, it was not exactly how we were expecting to spend our evening, with a 40 mile emergency dash round the M25, and then several hours with paramedics, police, and undertakers, I can say it has put a dampener on the festival spirit.

Not only has it been passed to the coroner, because the district nurse failed to sign his paperwork to say he had had his insulin, but the local morgues are full, so he has been taken into "Temporary storage" until the coroner can call for him.

Neither Suz or I have had to deal with the legal side of a death in the family, so we are currently prodding things with a long stick, and then seeing what happens, having already made the mistake of contacting the people who he has a funeral plan with, so they could collect the body, only to then find out that once the coroner is involved, they use their own "Men in Black", so I had to ring up and cancel them until a later date....

This now means we will be spending the first part of the new year sorting and trying to pull together a dysfunctional set of relatives for his funeral. None of us live local to his house, so I have no idea where or if we will have a wake after the funeral, which will also cause upset.

The house, which he has lived in for 60 + years, and for the last 20, being disabled, has not done a lot of maintenance, so we will need to do a lot of tidying up and clearing out. We will also need to remove all the additions that have been added over the years, like the ramps, stair lift, weird toilet and shower additions, and goodness knows what else...

I know it sounds totally wrong to say, but I feel really p155ed off at him for going now... he has been ill for many years, and we have had so many scares over the course of the year, but to go on Christmas Eve, just seems so frustrating.

Sorry to put a downer on things guys, trying to be strong for Suz, and still have a Christmas, while we are in a limbo state, and just needed to vent a bit...

 

[Banshee]

Well our new year aspirations have taken a bit of a turn, my Father in law had an unexpected meeting with the grim reaper on Christmas eve. obviously, it was not exactly how we were expecting to spend our evening, with a 40 mile emergency dash round the M25, and then several hours with paramedics, police, and undertakers, I can say it has put a dampener on the festival spirit.

Not only has it been passed to the coroner, because the district nurse failed to sign his paperwork to say he had had his insulin, but the local morgues are full, so he has been taken into "Temporary storage" until the coroner can call for him.

Neither Suz or I have had to deal with the legal side of a death in the family, so we are currently prodding things with a long stick, and then seeing what happens, having already made the mistake of contacting the people who he has a funeral plan with, so they could collect the body, only to then find out that once the coroner is involved, they use their own "Men in Black", so I had to ring up and cancel them until a later date....

This now means we will be spending the first part of the new year sorting and trying to pull together a dysfunctional set of relatives for his funeral. None of us live local to his house, so I have no idea where or if we will have a wake after the funeral, which will also cause upset.

The house, which he has lived in for 60 + years, and for the last 20, being disabled, has not done a lot of maintenance, so we will need to do a lot of tidying up and clearing out. We will also need to remove all the additions that have been added over the years, like the ramps, stair lift, weird toilet and shower additions, and goodness knows what else...

I know it sounds totally wrong to say, but I feel really p155ed off at him for going now... he has been ill for many years, and we have had so many scares over the course of the year, but to go on Christmas Eve, just seems so frustrating.

Sorry to put a downer on things guys, trying to be strong for Suz, and still have a Christmas, while we are in a limbo state, and just needed to vent a bit...

Ah mate that's crap, I'm so sorry for you

 

[Lazy-Ferret]

Ah mate that's crap, I'm so sorry for you

Cheers mate.

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[Banshee]

Cheers mate.

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If I can be of any help one of the weekends mate making use of my trailer to tip stuff etc then let me know :thumb2

 

[jims-terrano]

Oh Clive that is sad news indeed, our thoughts are with you both mate. Don’t feel guilty for your thoughts as it’s natural to feel that way mate. Can you talk to anyone like the undertaker for advice. I guess all the legal processes will take longer due to the break as well, hope you get everything settled soon.

 

[don simon]

Well, bloody hell! That is a bit sad, but do't worry about venting here. Thoughts with you guys.

 

[johnb5177]

Clive,
Sorry to hear of the somewhat tragic disruption to your Christmas. I think its natural to feel as you do, but we dont mind in the least.....thats what mates are for.
I hope you can get something sorted out, and once its organised, you may have a better perspective on it all.......:nenau

 

[macabethiel]

Well our new year aspirations have taken a bit of a turn, my Father in law had an unexpected meeting with the grim reaper on Christmas eve. obviously, it was not exactly how we were expecting to spend our evening, with a 40 mile emergency dash round the M25, and then several hours with paramedics, police, and undertakers, I can say it has put a dampener on the festival spirit.

Not only has it been passed to the coroner, because the district nurse failed to sign his paperwork to say he had had his insulin, but the local morgues are full, so he has been taken into "Temporary storage" until the coroner can call for him.

Neither Suz or I have had to deal with the legal side of a death in the family, so we are currently prodding things with a long stick, and then seeing what happens, having already made the mistake of contacting the people who he has a funeral plan with, so they could collect the body, only to then find out that once the coroner is involved, they use their own "Men in Black", so I had to ring up and cancel them until a later date....

This now means we will be spending the first part of the new year sorting and trying to pull together a dysfunctional set of relatives for his funeral. None of us live local to his house, so I have no idea where or if we will have a wake after the funeral, which will also cause upset.

The house, which he has lived in for 60 + years, and for the last 20, being disabled, has not done a lot of maintenance, so we will need to do a lot of tidying up and clearing out. We will also need to remove all the additions that have been added over the years, like the ramps, stair lift, weird toilet and shower additions, and goodness knows what else...

I know it sounds totally wrong to say, but I feel really p155ed off at him for going now... he has been ill for many years, and we have had so many scares over the course of the year, but to go on Christmas Eve, just seems so frustrating.

Sorry to put a downer on things guys, trying to be strong for Suz, and still have a Christmas, while we are in a limbo state, and just needed to vent a bit...

Hi Clive,
What an awful time for such a loss to take place our thoughts are with you. The attached link should help you.https://www.gov.uk/after-a-death when you register the death they should give you are really useful booklet.

When my Mother-in Law died in January 2017 we found it most helpful.

 

[Blocky10]

Sorry to hear your sad news Clive. All the best and chin up though

I lost my grandad on Christmas eve a few years back and it's still raw

 

[Lazy-Ferret]

Thanks for all the replies, and PM's guys, I would never wish it on anyone, but there is comfort knowing some of you have been through the same/similar things, and lived to tell the tale.

We took a day off yesterday, and went down to my mums, to celebrate her birthday (and fit the dashcam we got her for Christmas). To give my mum credit, my she was wonderful, and provided a lovely afternoons entertainment. We played some games of cards (not taking them very seriously, although the boys won, 3-1), and we spent a considerable amount of time in stitches, plus Suz had a couple of drinks which relaxed her a bit.

Today we had to go and meet up with Suz's brother, back at the father-in-laws house, to put a plan of action in place, and as someone on here said, the conversations, and list of action point distribution went a lot better then I expected. Mind you, it took us 2 1/2 hours to do 30 miles on the M25 today... the traffic was hell.:doh:doh