The main thing is, if you do put two batteries permanently in parallel, they need to be identical, and of the same age...
Like you see on every battery powered appliance, it is bad news to mix types and ages, and with the currents available to a car battery, it really could be bad. If one battery is older and is packing up. It will draw power from the good one, killing that as well, so you then have no advantage.
If you do it with a proper split charge style relay, either commercial or as mentioned above, a standard heavy current relay taking it's trigger from a circuit that is only live when the car is running, then the voltage is buffered by the alternator before the second battery comes into circuit, so stops the second battery does not get discharged by it.
The only problem with using lower amperage relays to switch, is if the second battery is the one that is dying, when switching it into circuit, it will draw a high current, and blow the fuse to it.
here is how I did mine
another discussion on the subject.
Personally, for what I require, having the batteries as two separate circuit is much better, as I can run the second battery flat, if I like, and still start the car, and for the few occasions that I may need to jump start the car from the second battery, I will just use my Jump leads to connect the two together.