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briggie · 21-11-2012, 08:16

thankyou everybody for your words of support , phils tragic death has hit me very hard ,im finding it hard to cope in all honesty , but my grief and sense of loss doesnt compare anywhere near gemma ( phils partner ) and cody ( his son ) ,
phil was my " little brother " even though he was bigger than me , i felt it was my duty as a big brother to look after him , and i feel ive let him down , silly i know , but thats how i feel ,

anyway , below is a pic of phil and cody .

melissachels · 21-11-2012, 09:38

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Originally Posted by briggie

thankyou everybody for your words of support , phils tragic death has hit me very hard ,im finding it hard to cope in all honesty , but my grief and sense of loss doesnt compare anywhere near gemma ( phils partner ) and cody ( his son ) ,
phil was my " little brother " even though he was bigger than me , i felt it was my duty as a big brother to look after him , and i feel ive let him down , silly i know , but thats how i feel ,

anyway , below is a pic of phil and cody .

Don't you dare blame yourself!!!!! there's only so much you can do to help or protect someone and I'm certain over the years you have done both.

Its a very sad day when someone so young is taken, but he lives on in you and especially in Cody. long as you help best you can to steer that little boys life in the right direction with morals & such as a male role model I'm pretty certain your brother will more than happy.

Keep your chin up & remember that he's may be gone in body but lives on in the heart

(RIP) PLANK · 21-11-2012, 10:12

Nice to see you here Pete, You know my opinion and Mel has said pretty much the same. You need to keep going mate, it's all any of us can do!

Kamsin · 21-11-2012, 10:29

Im normally the one who posts something witty or sarcastic, im not good with emotional stuff, but id like to say Im sure your brother never at anytime would have thought you had let him down.

Big brothers are like farthers, not matter how tall you get, you always look upto them.

96terrano · 21-11-2012, 12:58

Hope you are ok mate, I'm sure you're brother appreciated every little thing you done for him, as Mel said, dont blame yourself, yes, it might feel hard not to but I'm sure the last thing you're brother would be wanting it you to be blaming yourself, and its also not you're fault in anyway

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arcascomp · 21-11-2012, 19:56

I think Mel has put into words what we are all thinking, look back with fondness, but look forwards with hope and pride in Cody.

clivvy · 21-11-2012, 21:01

aw Peter this is tragic news mate im so sorry to read this, im really sorry i missed your chat thing on FB the other day (i have three devices and sometimes i get the chat thing late, if that makes sense.)

anyway, i really hope that somehow, you and Sheila are as ok as can be, I cant imaging how you are feeling, but be strong my friend and try to keep in mind that your brother loved you and looked up to you and you never let him down.

take care.

21-11-2012, 08:16	#1
briggie Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: peoples democratic republic of west yorkshire Vehicle: " alice " Posts: 10,473	a message to you all thankyou everybody for your words of support , phils tragic death has hit me very hard ,im finding it hard to cope in all honesty , but my grief and sense of loss doesnt compare anywhere near gemma ( phils partner ) and cody ( his son ) , phil was my " little brother " even though he was bigger than me , i felt it was my duty as a big brother to look after him , and i feel ive let him down , silly i know , but thats how i feel , anyway , below is a pic of phil and cody .

21-11-2012, 12:58	#5
96terrano Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Dumfries and Galloway, Scotland Vehicle: Nissan Terrano 2.7TD LWB Posts: 8,024	Hope you are ok mate, I'm sure you're brother appreciated every little thing you done for him, as Mel said, dont blame yourself, yes, it might feel hard not to but I'm sure the last thing you're brother would be wanting it you to be blaming yourself, and its also not you're fault in anyway.

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21-11-2012, 10:12	#3
(RIP) PLANK Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Central England, in the Heart of the Black Country Vehicle: T2 2004 TDI SE LWB Posts: 7,740	Nice to see you here Pete, You know my opinion and Mel has said pretty much the same. You need to keep going mate, it's all any of us can do!

21-11-2012, 10:29	#4
Kamsin Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: East Midlands Vehicle: Maverick 4x4 2.7 TDI 97 Posts: 1,211	Im normally the one who posts something witty or sarcastic, im not good with emotional stuff, but id like to say Im sure your brother never at anytime would have thought you had let him down. Big brothers are like farthers, not matter how tall you get, you always look upto them.

21-11-2012, 19:56	#6
arcascomp Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Edinburgh, Scotland Vehicle: 96 Mitsubishi Challenger! Posts: 775	I think Mel has put into words what we are all thinking, look back with fondness, but look forwards with hope and pride in Cody.

21-11-2012, 21:01	#7
clivvy Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Huddersfield Vehicle: Terrano 03 LWB Posts: 6,947	aw Peter this is tragic news mate im so sorry to read this, im really sorry i missed your chat thing on FB the other day (i have three devices and sometimes i get the chat thing late, if that makes sense.) anyway, i really hope that somehow, you and Sheila are as ok as can be, I cant imaging how you are feeling, but be strong my friend and try to keep in mind that your brother loved you and looked up to you and you never let him down. take care.